Definitions

Personal Event History:

The Personal Events HistoryTM (PEH) is all the completed Now Events of your life. It is made up of four elements called the Four Influences: External Influences, Internalized Influences, Highlights and Lowlights and the Events Performance Record (located in the PED as provided by the PEA). Every person uses the information in the PEH as a basis for thinking, feeling and acting in the Now Event.

External Influences:

External Influences are all energy and communications that is not you. They can block you from hearing the internal message or they might inspire it. They can encourage you to choose Events that may or may not serve your Life Purpose and Life Category Goals.

External Influences are mother, father, sister, brother, teacher, preacher, doctor, friends. They are books, cell phones, television, commercials, and the internet. They may have your best interests in mind; they may be out to harm you. External Influences begin at birth and will be functioning at your death bed. They are intended to create a social fabric, a stratification, by which individuals can be categorized, judged, organized and placed. It is by this means that society determines: Who is rich or poor, who is smart or less smart, who is rewarded, what group you belong to, what values you hold, what language you speak, where you live, how far you advance and so forth. They determine if you can be president or king….unless you are otherwise internally motivated.

Internalized Influences:

Many External Influences are internalized at an early age, probably before recallable memories. Much of the influence is provided to us by people that we know and trust (parents, relatives, teachers, preachers), who are doing nothing more or less than what society taught them. Much of it comes through all forms of electronic media. Some influencers use very powerful and sophisticated marketing and sales propaganda messages. These messages are in both the programs and the commercials.

Once an External Influence has been internalized, it is extremely difficult to distinguish it from the internal message. That is why with iPAL you begin the process with definition of Life Purpose, Natural Talents and Interests and Life Category Goals. This process will provide structure and clarity to determine if your Events represent the real you.

Highlights and Lowlights:

Likely the most powerful of the Four Influences are the Highlights and Lowlights. They are both positive (Highlights) and negative (Low Lights). They may be still cycling in your life or they may be past Events. Both Highlights and Low Lights have a ‘halo effect’ which is very powerful and can influence the performance of all or many Events. Graduating from college can have a long term positive influence on many Events just as a car accident can bring a negative feeling of fear to many Events.

Events Performance Record:

Within the Self Coaching Continuum the Positive Self Coach and the Negative Self Coach each use the tools available to them to influence Event Performance. Usually neither coach achieves a plus 10 or minus 10. The score will be somewhere in between. As the Event cycles as the Now Event, it will build a performance record. It is the average of this score that is entered into the PED and analyzed with the PEA.

Positive Self Coach:

iPAL teaches the user how to be an expert Positive Self CoachTM. Since most Events in our lives Cycle through on a routine basis, the Event, each time it is the Now Event, gives us the opportunity to perform the Event better and better. By planning Events, performing them and checking to see if they fulfill our Life Purpose and Goals, we are exercising total control over our lives and guiding ourselves continually forward up the excellence curve.

iPAL provides you all the Life Coaching ToolsTM you need to be an expert Positive Self CoachTM. As each Event occurs in the Now, ensure the following:

In addition you can use the Four Influences and the Event Performance Record to positively influence the Event and Partner choices and increase Event performance.

Negative Self Coach:

iPAL also teaches the dangers and of being a Negative Self CoachTM. When an Event cycles as the Now Event it also gives you the opportunity to perform the Event worse or the same. Common elements to Negative Self CoachingTM. are:

  • Not having a Life Purpose.
  • Not having Life Category Goals.
  • Not choosing Events that use your Natural Talents and Interests.
  • Making poor Event choices that do not support your Life Purpose and Goals.
  • Letting External and Internalized Influences determine your Event choices (rather than planning your Events in your PED).
  • Acting on your negative feelings or thoughts in the Now Event (thoughts and emotions that are self and/or other destructive).
  • Letting Lowlight Events from your PEH negatively influence your thoughts, actions and feelings during performance of the Now Event. Lowlight Events are particularity negative experiences from our past. This is a powerful tool for Negative Self CoachingTM.
  • Building a negative Event Performance Record and letting it influence the Now Event.
  • Choosing Partners that are not appropriate for the Event.
  • Ignoring the Balance Principles, getting out of balance.
  • Not putting your total mental focus on the Now Event.

The Balance Principles:

The Balance Principles applies to the Life Category Goals and the Event Attributes. The Balance Principles uses simple percentages to set a balance of Time and Events. For Categories it is 7% for each Category other than Rest (33%) and Career (25%). For Cycle, 33% in each Cycle. For High/Low Energy and Alone/Shared, 50% in each Attribute. When Goal and Attribute percentages are out of balance, this indicates a need for positive Self Coaching.

Perpetuating the Cycle Of Life:

Our own Life Cycle exists within a much bigger Cycle called the Cycle of Life. Through our knowledge of evolution, we know something of the beginnings of the Cycle of Life. And to date, at least for millions of living beings, the Cycle continues. It is our responsibility, during our Life Cycle, to use our natural Talents and Interests to serve the bigger Cycle of Life, actively pursuing our Purpose. Our contributions to the perpetuation of the Cycle of Life, will leave our planet a better place, not only for our children and their children, but for generations to come. Our understanding of these Cycles creates a deeper sensitivity towards nature, doing our part in protecting the environment and appreciating the value of all life.

Personal Events DatabaseTM (PED):

So to summarize, Events Cycle and repeat themselves in your own personal time/space. Each time they occur as the Now Event, we can improve on their performance. A key component to iPAL is the ability of the user to perform self analysis of each Event. This analysis forms the motivation for behavioral change as you assess the relative Value of each Event, especially in regard to achieving one’s Purpose and Goals.

Still, keeping track of all these Events and doing analysis sounds a bit complicated, and, to an extent, it is. Here is where iPAL comes in. Clearly, personal Events are like any other data, in that they can be collected in a database and analyzed. This is a perfect computer application of database management and analysis, because the data are the Events of your life. The computer is directly involved in helping you to become a happier and more successful person.

The next step in using iPAL is to develop your Personal Events Database (PED) ™. This is the core process within iPAL to record all your Events that occur within a month. This will amount to about 720 hrs of time. This time period is chosen because within a month’s time, most Events will have Cycled at least once. The PED has a very specific top down structure designed so that data analysis will provide insights for conducting Positive Self CoachingTM.

In the beginning, it takes about 4 hours total time to enter a month’s worth of Events, with their assigned Attributes and Values. iPAL is very helpful by making the process fast and easy. You can do it all in one sitting or over several sittings. Either way, use the full 30 days to build the baseline PED (through Chapter 6 of iPAL) so most Events have Cycled at least once. Once you get your first 720 hours accounted for, you’ll have your first PED, called the baseline. This is your iPAL starting point, showing you how you assess your current Event performance. Remember: Do your baseline PED based on your Now Events, as they currently exist in your life. Do not add new Events or change your Now Events based on how you plan to see yourself in the future. This ensures your baseline PED reflects your true starting point.

Although we think we know ourselves, and the information in the PED was entered by you, the first Personal Events AnalysisTM (PEA) of your PED will give you tremendous insights into Positive Self CoachingTM. Once you start making changes, you will also be able to see, with data, the improvements you make in your life over time.

PED Structure:

Within the PED, Events are organized into eight Life Categories. iPAL will coach you to set meaningful goals within each Category. The Life Categories form the whole of human experience, and every Event in your life can be named and placed in one or more of the Categories.

Life Categories:

Life Categories are the natural groupings of Events. Life is a cyclical process, sequentially ordered and genetically programmed. Your life is demonstrated through patterns of behaviors called Events. All human life is spent in a time/space continuum called the Now Event. Each Event has Attributes and Values that can be used to optimize the performance of the Event. There are eight separate and distinct Life Categories for all of the Events of our lives.

Life Category Goals:

In iPAL, one or more Goals are set within each Life Category, both to define success within that Life Category and to achieve your Life Purpose. These goals are very important. To achieve these goals you must select Events that serve them and conduct expert Positive Self CoachingTM to ensure performance excellence.

The Eight Life Categories are:

Rest:

This Life Category is used to categorize all the Events in your life that allow your mind, body and emotions to rest and recuperate. Rest Events may include sleep, stress reduction and relaxation techniques, even reading or watching television or listening to music for relaxation, receiving a massage, or any other restful and restorative Event. There is often overlap between Rest and Relaxation Events as is true in all the Life Categories. One Event can often serve more than one Life Category goal. For this reason, iPAL allows for assigning Events in your PED to more than one Life Category.

iPAL Coaching Point: It is recommended that approximately 33% of your total PED be spent in Rest Events. They are essential for building up your Energy to properly perform the High Energy Events that Cycle through your life each day. Proper rest ensures you have the right amount of Energy available to perform your active Events.

Career (Central Life Interest):

These are all of the Events in your life that you would describe as work, whether paid or unpaid. The primary purpose of the work is to make money, and/or to develop and express your major life interest related to your talents and personal potentials. Approximately 25% of your life is usually spent on your Career/Central Life Interest(s) Events. The Time and Events within this Life Category allow you to earn your way in life by performing Events for which you feel you have a natural interest and talent, and that contribute to the betterment of you and society.

iPALCoaching Point: Career/Central Life Interest Events should not be entered in your PED as a single Event. Each specific task you perform in your work or life interest is a single Event and should be defined as such, for effective management of this important Life Category.

iPAL Coaching Point: Except as specified for Rest and Career, balance an equal amount of Time and have an equal number of Events in the rest of the Life Categories. The six Life Categories other than Rest and Career are performed within the 42% of Time and Events remaining in your PED (about 7% of your total Time and Events for each of these Life Categories.)

Exercise:

The Events in your life that provide the proper balance of aerobic, anaerobic and flexibility activities required for the maintenance of a healthful body. Exercise Events may include weight training, aerobic type exercises, sports, physical work, walking, yoga, or any other physically active Event you do.

iPAL Coaching Point: This is a Life Category that often gets short changed. It is an undisputable fact of life that we all need exercise for the health of our bodies. The best way you can be consistent is to find forms of exercise you like and/or partners (Shared Event) who also love that particular form of exercise. I love sports, especially golf. Therefore many of my friends are also my golf partners. My wife is big on Yoga and, much to my advantage; I enjoy doing it with her.

Finance:

Finance Category Events involve the issue of money. These Events include buying and selling things, paying and receiving money, investing money, thinking, learning about, planning and discussing financial issues, or any other Event you perform in your life relating to money other than working.

Though working Events are usually listed under the Life Category of Career/Central Life Interest, there is often overlap with the Finance Life Category.

iPAL Coaching Point: Many of us are guilty of not spending enough time in this Life Category, especially the learning about, planning and discussing part. Many resources are available for personal growth and learning in this very important Life Category. Stay involved in decisions and choose your advisors wisely.

iPAL encourages you not to short change the 7% of Events and Time assigned to this Life Category.

Environment:

Events that produce a clean and safe environment as well as a certain quality of life. They also include your relationship with your environment, including Events such as recycling and conserving energy, using alternate energy sources and so forth. Many of these are routine household duties and other related chores. These might include cleaning, washing dishes, vacuuming, laundry, ironing, taking out trash, dusting, washing the car, mowing the lawn and any other Event relating to the maintenance and cleanliness of your personal environment.

iPAL Coaching Point: Improving the organization of your personal environment, increasing your efforts to save energy or recycle, or not littering/picking up litter are all Events that give you immediate success and start you on the road to even greater accomplishments. This is also a way to demonstrate your care for the ongoing Cycle of Life for future generations.

Recreation/Relaxation:

The Events in your life that are for playing and having fun. Recreation/Relaxation Events may include movie-going, watching television (noneducational programs), going out to dinner or dancing, reading, attending concerts or plays, playing party games (i.e. cards, chess, etc.), or any other Events that are in your life for fun and enjoyment.

iPAL Coaching Point: In life it is important to have fun. By using iPAL, hopefully every Event in your life will be fun, but it is important to ensure that we have a good mix of social and recreational activities.

Health:

All the Events in your life that assure a proper balance of food intake and also those Events that assure physical well being, good hygiene, personal cleanliness and beauty. Health Events also include eating, drinking, bathroom functions, applications of makeup, oils and creams, physical self-examination, dental self care, professional medical and dental examinations and care, applications of knowledge about preventive health and hygiene methods, and related types of Events.

iPAL Coaching Point: Advances in healthcare do not take away our responsibility for our own self care. A person can go on a diet to attempt to lose weight, but healthy eating is a life time practice. It is great if we have access to the healthcare system, but daily practice of eating right and using good hygiene can keep us healthy on our own and extend our lives.

Education:

Education Events are all the Events in your life that increase or enhance your knowledge level as their primary function. Of course one of the most popular ways to seek knowledge today is on the internet and the many other portable and personal electronic forms of communication. Other Education Events may include formal education or training, apprenticeship, watching educational television programs, listening to news programs, reading the paper (or MSNBC on the internet), reading an educational book (or electronic reader). Education Events also include giving any form of instruction to others, participating in a mutual learning experience, thinking and planning, constructive dialogue, or any other Event that is primarily a teaching, planning or learning experience.

iPAL Coaching Point: Use Education Events for gathering the knowledge and creating the plan you need to maximize your performance of all the Events in your life. Ensure that all Events best reflect the abilities, potentials, dreams, goals and desires as defined by your Life Purpose.

This completes the Life Categories. Next, each Event in the PED is assigned a name and Attributes as follows:

Event Name:

An Event is a single unit of Time/Energy use. In iPAL you can provide any name for the Event (space is limited). The PED has some common Events in each Life Category for the user to get started if desired. As you become more accustomed to seeing life as a ‘Now Event’ seeking fulfillment each time it cycles through your life, you will define your Events with more clarity and precision. For better Event control and performance, define your Events as specifically as possible to validly measure the value or benefit you gain from each. Usually a person will begin with no more than 40 Events, but will, over time refine to 80 or more distinct Events.

iPAL Coaching Point: Build your baseline PED gradually, increasing the number of your Events and assigning Values to those Events as you gain greater self-insight and awareness. Using a full month to complete your baseline PED allows most of your Events to Cycle at least once. During the course of the month you will observe yourself performing an Event that you have yet to add to your PED. Always name your Events and assign your Attributes and Values based on how you live your life now. When implementing Positive Self CoachingTM within the Self Coaching Continuum, focus on Events that you can perform with consistency and use Monthly Events to continuously expand on your natural talents, skills and potentials.

Event Attributes:

Event Attributes are the natural aspects of an Event. They give definition and clarity to an Event that is translated into numbers in your PED and analysis with iPAL Personal Events AnalysisTM (PEA). Attribute data are an essential component for your PEA on the Event and Life Category levels.

iPAL Coaching Point: Often by changing the Attributes of an Event, a lower performing Event can be more optimized. Changing the Cycle of walking from once Weekly to once Daily for example, can make a big difference in the Event’s effectiveness.

Cycle:

We have already discussed Cycle as one of the two C’s. Again, Cycles can be Daily, Weekly or Monthly.

iPAL Coaching Point: Balance your Events and Time among the three Cycles.

Energy:

Energy is the level of effort appropriate for optimum Event performance. There are two types of Energy although they function on a continuum. These are:

High Energy Events - The most active, action or doing Events which take or use your Energy. After these Events Cycle in your life, they leave you physically, mentally and/or emotionally spent.

Low Energy Events - Most inactive Events which are in your life for fun, enjoyment, rest and relaxation. After these Events Cycle in your life, they leave you physically, mentally, and/or emotionally refreshed and rejuvenated. They restore your Energy and leave you feeling pumped up and ready for action.

iPAL Coaching Point: Maintain a balanced or equal amount of Time in High and Low Energy Events, and have a balanced or equal number of High and Low Energy Events . High Energy Events are best scheduled when you are most physically energetic. Low Energy Events are best scheduled for those times of day when you are least energetic. Schedule Time of Day and Day of Week (Use iPAL PED Event notes for this) to match your natural Energy levels to both high and low Events.

Alone/Shared:

The Alone/Shared Attribute ensures that Time and Events are dedicated to personal growth, but equal amounts are Shared for Mutual Benefit.

Alone Event - An Event is Alone if it is performed by oneself, and is one over which you have total responsibility and requires only your action. Alone Events provided Time away from others for personal space, learning and growth.

Shared Event - An Event is Shared if it’s performed in relation to another person. Just being in the same room or space with another person while the Event is being performed doesn’t necessarily qualify it as Shared. Social interaction has to occur between the persons sharing the Event. For example, standing alone at a dance wouldn’t be a Shared Event, but talking and dancing with another person would be.

iPAL Coaching Point: Have an equal number of Alone and Shared Events and, an equal amount of Time spent on Alone and Shared Events. Alone Events give you time to develop yourself, learn and grow, while Shared Events let you share yourself with others for Mutual Benefit.

Time:

Event Time is a critical Attribute for Event analysis of your PED. By nature, Events need their appropriate amount of Time to achieve fulfillment or completeness. Likewise, if your Events over time (Personal Event History™ (PEH) are often incomplete and unfinished, you may begin to have feelings of failure and a lack of fulfillment in all aspects of your life. Allowing more time than required to complete an Event is an inefficient time waster.

iPAL Coaching Point: Time is finite for all living things. You don’t have an unlimited lifetime in which to achieve your Purpose and Goals. If you continue to put their realization off for some future day, you may find yourself living in a constant state of frustration, anxiety or depression. Don’t wait: It’s your Time to start on Positive Self CoachingTM.

Event Time is entered into your PED as:

Event Elapsed Time: The amount of Time spent on an Event each time it Cycles as the Now Event (expressed in hours and minutes).

Event Number Of Times: The number of Times you perform an Event within a Cycle, e.g., 1 time a day, 4 times a week, two times a month.

Event Time of Day: The time of day you perform each Event. (Enter this information in the Event notes).

Event Day of Week: The day of the week you perform each Event. (Enter this information in the Event notes).

iPAL Coaching Point: Account for every Event in your PED within a one-month period, and with patience and persistence, your total hours will reach the target of 720. Assign the appropriate Amount of Time and Number of Times, Time of Day and Day of Week to each Event until you feel it is optimized.

That completes the Attributes of an Event in the PED. The final element of the PED is the Values. Once all the numbers are assigned to the Attributes and Values of an Event, more than 100 mathematical calculations are performed on the PED automatically by PEA. Armed with these data, iPAL becomes your powerful, personal life coach.

Values (The Five Selves):

The final element of the PED is the Values. The Five Values are based on the concept of the Five Selves. Although there are many theories of self, iPAL is based on models from Berne (Parent, Adult, Child) and Freud (Id, Ego, Superego) and my own study and research. The Five Selves are the Inner/Spiritual Self, the Mental Self, the Physical Self, The Emotional Self and the Relational Self (for Events Shared).

The Five Values (Selves) are used to assess your relative satisfaction with each Event in your PED using the PEA. In truth, you make this five level Values assessment each time an Event from your PED cycles as the Now Event. At that time the Positive Self Coach and Negative Self Coach attempt to influence the performance of the Event using their coaching tools. If your five level Values (Selves) assessment is not 10 on a 10 point scale in all five Values (four Values for Events Alone) this indicates an opportunity to improve Event performance. As you determine why you scored an Event less than plus 10 in any of the Values, use the notes feature of iPAL to state the reason. Once you have built your baseline PED, with iPAL Personal Events Analysis (PEA) you will be able to review the Values (Selves) scores for your current Events and consider replacing low Value Events with Events of higher Value or changing the Attributes or Partner. By referring to your notes, you know how to target your self coaching intervention and improve the Values (Selves) scores for all your Events scoring less than plus 10. If you have scores in the minus for any Value (Selves) for any Event, talk to someone you can trust about these scores or contact Uncle.

You might review Attributes and Time allotments to determine if they should be brought more into balance or otherwise adjusted so as to optimize the Value of the Event. Likewise you can study the Life Categories to determine if you have the appropriate balance of Time and Events within each Life Category. You can modify your Life Purpose and Life Category Goals.

iPAL Coaching Point: After you complete your baseline PED, when starting Positive Self CoachingTM within the Self Coaching ContinuumTM, seek Events in your life that you rate as 10 for each of the five Values(Selves).

iPAL Values (Selves):

The iPAL Values has five areas representing the Five Selves. They provide the Event scores (calculated automatically by the PEA) that measure the second of the Two C's - Positive Self CoachingTM within The Self Coaching ContinuumTM. It is important to understand that iPAL is teaching the process of Event performance optimization and guarding against the formidable tactics of Negative Self CoachingTM. With these five areas of assessment, you will get very specific mathematical scores that tell you exactly why the Event is not being optimized. Since these are data you created and with the internal knowledge of why you scored the Event lower than plus 10 in any or all of the Values, you can provide expert Positive Self Coaching and improve the performance of all your Events or replace them with higher performing Events.

In iPAL the individual learns to act on Events that represent natural and internal talents and interests that bring inherent motivation and emotional satisfaction.

The five iPAL Values (Selves) are: Spiritual or Inner Self, Mental Self, Physical Self, Emotional Self and Relational Self.

Inner or Spiritual Self: In this self you are assessing whether this Event supports your Life Purpose and Life Category Goals, uses your Natural Interests and Talents that demonstrate your uniqueness and facilitate your sharing for Mutual Benefit. It assesses the degree you are a spiritual being, taking responsibility to fulfill your Life Purpose, support society and perpetuate the Cycle of Life.

In the PED, the Spiritual/Inner Self is the first value assessment in making the Event choice. If the Event does not satisfy the Spiritual/Inner Self Value, it should be modified or not be included in the PED.

Assess the Spiritual/Inner Value of an Event by answering the following questions using the plus or minus 10 scale:

Inner Self Event Values Assessment:

  • To what extent does this Event support my Life Purpose?
  • To what extent does this Event support one or more Life Category Goals?
  • To what extent does this Event support my Interests?
  • To what extent does this Event use my Natural Talents and Skills?

Mental Self: Once you have defined an Event that supports your Spiritual/Inner Self, the Mental Self Value assesses your planning and your knowledge to perform the Event to its optimum. If the Event scores very high in the Physical and Emotional Values, it indicates that the Mental Self has the knowledge, the plan and the focus to optimize Event Performance. If the Event scores very low in the Physical and Emotional Values, it is up to the Mental Self to be innovative and creative, seeking knowledge and putting that knowledge into a plan (by adjusting the Attributes of the Event) so that Event choices better serve the Spiritual/Inner Self, are performed more consistently and have a more positive emotional response.

It also measures mental focus. There is a common misconception today that a person can focus on more than one Now Event within the same time and space. This is not true and can often cause very negative consequences. The only way to ‘cheat time’ is by expert Positive Self CoachingTM resulting in Event choices that serve one’s Purpose and simultaneously more than one Life Category Goal while optimizing their performance. This is the role of the Mental Self.

Actions derived from one’s own ideas and plans have a much higher probability of being consistently implemented and sustained over time. People are more willing to do things they like or think of themselves. They will tend to perform these Events with greater accuracy and focus, because they are enjoying what they do. They will also tend to be better at it and improve faster, because they are using their natural talents. They are more receptive to learning, because the Event represents an area of Interest. They will also bring forth their best ideas and talents. If these things are not occurring in some of the Events you selected, it is a sign that you need to make adjustments to the Event. You can replace the Event with another that is more rewarding, change the Attributes of the Event or change the Event Partner. This is an ongoing process until every Event in your life is rated a plus 10 in all the Values according to your own evaluation.

Assess the Mental Self Value of an Event by answering the following questions using the plus or minus 10 scale:

Mental Self Event Values Assessment:

  • To what extent do I have the required knowledge to perform this Event?
  • To what extent do I have a plan to perform the Event?
  • To what extent do I stay mentally focused when performing this Event?

Physical Self: Once you have selected Events that support your Inner Self and you have the knowledge and plan to perform them, effective Event performance in the Physical Self gives credence to all the other Values scores. If your physical actions are consistent with what you defined in your Spiritual and Mental Selves, this is one of the strongest indicators that there is an internal connection or synergy between the Spiritual/Inner, Mental and Physical Selves. If the Physical Self Value is high, chances are that all the other Values will also be high and this Event will be considered a Positive Self Coaching success. If the Physical Self Value is low, chances are that all the other Values will also be low and this Event will be considered a Negative Self Coaching issue. If you cannot perform an Event consistently, you have to go back to the Spiritual/Inner Self and Mental Self to change the Event, the Attributes or the Partner to improve Event Performance.

iPAL Coaching Point: Have the right Energy and concentrate the Five Selves on your Event at hand (the Now Event) and nowhere else to achieve the maximum in effectiveness and efficiency for that Event.

In the PED, assess the Physical Self Value of an Event by answering the following questions using the plus or minus 10 scale:

Physical Self Event Values Assessment:

  • At what level of consistency do I perform this Event according to the assigned Times?
  • To what extent do I have the right Energy level for this Event?
  • To what extent is the Event fully completed each time it Cycles in the now?

The Emotional Self: The Emotional Self Value is an assessment of your satisfaction with each Event in your life. If the Event supports your Life Purpose (Inner Self), you have knowledge and a plan (Mental Self) and the Event is consistently performed (Physical Self), it is likely to score very high on the Emotional Self Value. Again there is additional synergy between the four Selves.

Although this sounds like the Self Coaching ContinuumTM works in sequence; first you have Purpose, then you have Knowledge and a Plan, and then you Do the Event and then Feel the consequences, all these are happening at the same time in the Now Event. That is why it is so important to understand that Events cycle and in between these cycles we can develop a PED, perform PEA and provide expert Positive Self Coaching for the next cycle of the Event as the Now Event.

At times we choose Events that support our Life Category Goal(s) and think that we will enjoy it. When we attempt to be consistent in performance, however, we find that we do not enjoy the Event as much as we envisioned. This will also lead to inconsistency in performance. Go back to the Inner Self Stage and select another Event, gain knowledge or improve the plan for the Event in the Mental Self stage or modify the Attributes of the Event (Physical Self Stage). Again, this is all accomplished by modifying your baseline PED and then generating new Value scores using the iPAL PEA. If the new Event or changes in Attributes increase your Value scores for that Event, (especially the Emotional Value), you know from the data that your changes are working. You can readily feel your success as a Positive Self Coach.

In the PED, assess the Emotional Self Value of an Event by answering the following questions using the plus or minus 10 scale:

Emotional Self Event Values Assessment:

  • To what extent do I feel confident and secure when performing the Event?
  • To what extent am I personally committed to the Event?
  • To what extent do I enjoy performing the Event?
  • To what extent am I fully satisfied with this Event?

iPAL Coaching Point - Emotional Self: Your Emotional Value for an Event in your PED has a critical impact on its successful outcome. All the Values are a continuum that in iPAL is measured on a scale from plus 10 to minus 10. Some Events you like to do very much. You’re very excited and enthusiastic about them and they get a high Emotional Value score. Some Events you have a fear about or are repulsed by and they get a low Emotional Value score. Your attitude about most Events range anywhere between these two points on a plus or minus scale. Clearly, choosing to do those Events that you like and are enthusiastic about, greatly maximizes your performance. A feared Event generally means you feel weak, powerless, or out of control, or is something you feel forced to do. But, you can develop a better attitude about any Event by generating enthusiasm for it. By having an attitude that you are going to conquer your feelings of fear and powerlessness, you can turn perceived weaknesses into strength. Take the attitude that you’re going to give your best effort to everything you do, and you will maximize the performance of all your Events.

The Relational Self: In Shared Events, excellence occurs only when there is total satisfaction by both parties. In the Relational Self Value, choose a Partner that joins into the Event because they truly enjoy it themselves and for the opportunity to manifest their own excellence, not just to be there with you. In Shared Events, a score of plus 10 in the Relational Self Value can only be achieved if both/all Partners rate the Event as a plus 10.

In the PED, assess the Relational Self Value of an Event by answering the following questions using the plus or minus 10 scale:

Relational Self Event Values Assessment:

  • To what extent does this Event mutually benefit me and my partner(s)?
  • To what extent does this Event benefit society as a whole?
  • To what extent is the partner(s) the right choice for this Event (equally motivated to Share the Event)?

iPAL Coaching Point - Relational Self: We often choose a relationship partner and share Events where one or the other has to compromise. This leads to negative scorekeeping (who’s turn to compromise). Events Shared with compromise or negative scorekeeping will not be optimized for one or more of the parties. Partners are chosen on the Event level. For each Shared Event, choose a Partner for Mutual Benefit so everyone is fully satisfied.

Personal Events AnalysisTM (PEA):

We have now completed the baseline PED. As you know, when completing your PED, you assigned mathematical numbers to the Attributes and Values of each life Event. Now that you have a baseline, you are ready to perform a detailed self analysis on your PED using iPAL Personal Events AnalysisTM (PEA). This is done automatically by the software and requires no calculating on your part. The analysis results are immediately available to you both in Chapter 6 and in the Personal Events ManagerTM (PEM) tab of the Main Menu.

PEA conducts well over 100 different calculations on your PED, providing a full range of self analysis results. Mathematical data are more precise; more generally understood as universal and are more process oriented than just verbal evaluations.

This process of assigning Values to your life Events is internal and calls upon your natural and inherent awareness of self. No one determines the relative Value of your life Events other that yourself. There are no negative labels. iPAL shows you that you have Event choices. It gives you the ability to assign Values and Attributes to those Events in your life by your own evaluation (your PED). The ongoing analysis of these Events (PEA), creates an undeniable awareness that grows in you as time goes on.

PEA provides immediate and long term insight into yourself. There is motivation to change instantly and the motivation becomes stronger each time that Event cycles as the Now Event. The knowledge that you rated the Event low, grates on you and over time you will change it.

Chapter 7 of iPAL is used to first apply the Positive Self Coaching within the Self Coaching ContinuumTM, and the PEM is used thereafter for ongoing applications. After you complete Chapter 7 of iPAL, almost all of your interaction with the software will be using the PEM to conduct PEA and to update and manage your PED. PEA results for your new and updated PEDs will consistently show higher Value scores for your Events and again higher in 6 months and so forth.